Pursuing Your Spouse in Marriage | Part 1Sample

Don’t Give Up

Falling in love is a process. When you were first interested in your spouse, you probably wanted to spend lots of time with them and learn all about them. As you got to know each other, your relationship grew, until the day you stood at the altar together and made your vows. Although the wedding day sealed our covenant “one flesh” relationship with our spouse, our pursuit of their heart continues for all the days of our lives.

The attraction process should not end on the wedding day! However, if we do not nurture our marriage relationship, it will grow dull and uninteresting. This is what can cause couples to “fall out of love.” The loving feelings fade if we don’t intentionally keep doing the things that grew our relationship in the first place. Many couples talk, kiss, hold hands, and go on dates far less often after getting married than while dating. But those good things that brought you together in the beginning are what will keep bringing you together for all the days to come.

So don’t let the pursuit end. Don’t grow weary of investing in your marriage. Don’t give up on the good work of building your marriage. Paul encourages us in Galatians 6 to not grow weary of doing good. This absolutely applies to the marriage relationship! Seek to do good for your spouse. Even if it’s hard today, aligning with God’s vision for oneness in marriage is the best path to a joy-filled and fulfilling marriage.

Everyone is created with a deep desire to be known and understood; to be “naked and unashamed” (Genesis 2:24-25) in every sense of both words.

How can you get to know your spouse better today? Being a student of your spouse is a marriage-long project. A lifetime is not long enough to learn everything there is to know about your spouse. We grow and change, so there is always something new to learn about one another. Today, be encouraged to continue pursuing and learning.

Going Deeper:

• What is one way you can “do good” to your spouse today?
• What are 3 things you enjoyed doing together while dating, but haven’t done recently?
• Ask your spouse: “What is something you’ve been learning recently?” and “Where have you seen God at work in our lives lately?”