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Aftershock - Your Sexual Relationship With Your Husband

DAY 5 OF 6

Sacred Sex

Marital sex is good and a God-blessed, sacred spiritual act. God wants a couple to build a foundation for their relationship by connecting deeply on mental, emotional, and spiritual levels. This leads to marriage. Only then, as a natural result or by-product of this profound soul connection, does it become appropriate for them to bond in sexual intercourse.

The Bible is filled from beginning to end with passages that underscore this idea. In Proverbs 30:19, the writer ponders four deep mysteries too wonderful for the human mind to comprehend: The way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a serpent on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a woman. The Song of Solomon is a poetic celebration of this same mystery. Its theme is romantic love and sexual bonding between husband and wife. The book has been interpreted as a story strictly about God’s relationship with His chosen people, but there’s more to it than this. It’s also a profound and intensely sensual study of the interaction between a man and a woman within the bond of matrimony.

If you believe all of that is true, then ask yourself this question: When was the last time you were making love and became aware that you were engaged in a spiritual act? Have you ever felt worshipful or sensitive to God’s presence while you were having sex?

If you’ve never felt God’s smiling presence during that union or considered the biblical symbolism bound up in your sexuality, something is amiss, and you need to figure out why. When one or both partners in a marriage have been sexually wounded, whether through childhood abuse, rape, pornography, media distortions, promiscuity, or marital abuse, they frequently find it extremely difficult to think of sex as sacred.

As a result, many couples simply can’t believe that the words sex and spirituality belong together in the same sentence. The wonder of marital sex as it was meant to function in God’s original plan is bigger, more breathtaking, and more all-encompassing in God’s love story (the Gospel) than most of us can imagine.

Next, we’ll look at how to have a new mindset about sexual expression. 

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Aftershock - Your Sexual Relationship With Your Husband

Your husband has repented of his pornography use, and he’s asking you to begin having sex with him again. You haven’t had sex since you discovered his behavior, and your husband assumed that his and your counseling would mean that you would be willing, even excited, to be intimate with him again. You’re not. And you feel guilty. Is it okay not to want to have sex with your husband?

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