Solid…building the Marriage of Your Dreams by Godman AkinlabiSample

 Drink from Your Own Well

In marriage, you enter into a covenant with your spouse that is recognized by God and sealed physically through sex. While single, it is encouraged to wait for marriage and to reserve that unveiling for you and your spouse. The reality is that even marriage does not guarantee the prevention of the misuse of sex. ‘Drink from your own well’ here means to have sex only with your spouse. Do not derive sexual pleasure from anyone other than the person you are married to. This includes engaging in pornography or masturbation. You should derive pleasure from your spouse, not mental images or videos of third parties. These actions are capable of ruining your marriage.

For a rich and enduring relationship, loyalty is not only desired, it is required. Nobody wants to be in a marriage with someone who claims to love you yet goes to bed with other people. Some people experience the itch of wanting a better mate or they experience some sort of buyer’s remorse, thinking they could have made a better choice of whom to marry. Please pay attention: in the cycle of life, there will always be ‘something better’ out there. There will always be someone smarter, richer, taller, younger, more attractive, and more charismatic than your spouse. 

Life on this side of heaven will never be perfect. The whole purpose of making vows is to assure your spouse that in spite of what life throws your way, you will be faithful. Will you face hardship in marriage? Yes. Will you be tempted to cheat? Yes. Is it possible to resist? Yes. Once you can settle this in your heart, fidelity becomes not just a possibility but also your lifestyle. Infidelity occurs when people choose to esteem their problems above their promises. Don’t let that be your story. 

Action Point: Commit to drinking only from your own well. Make up your mind to do it and ask God to help you keep to it. Erect boundaries that will help you stand by your commitment.