A Good Sex Life

Devotional Content:

One of the things that Nancy and I did not do before marriage was talk about our future sex life and what we each expected it to look like. I don’t think we were that different from most couples. As I work with couples in the counseling room, I am always amazed about how little conversation there has been about sex. One of the things I do with premarital couples is to get them talking about their expectations for sex in marriage. It is interesting that we live in a sex-charged world, yet talk so little about it in our marriage relationships. One of my prayers for you during this reading plan is that it will open the door to conversations about your sexual relationship.

I think that going into marriage I felt like I knew all that I needed to know and that a great sex life would just happen. That theory didn’t hold water very long. I left out an essential part. Actually two essential parts. The first was Nancy’s expectations and the second was God’s plan for sex in marriage. What we learned over time, after a lot of pain and fighting, was that a great sex life takes work and effort. For us that meant talking, sharing, listening, experimenting, and patience. We had to forget what our culture said and let God show us His plan for sex. His plan blends the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. His plan is for a mingling of souls and it can only happen in a Christian marriage. It is the best sex ever!

Today’s Challenge: 

Take time to share the expectations you had for your sexual relationship as you entered into marriage.

Going Deeper:

1. What messages about sex do you see in your culture? How are those messages affecting you and your marriage?

2. Dr. Kim talks about sex as a gift from God. How does that truth affect you and your view of sex in marriage?

3. On a scale of 1–10 (10 being the highest) how would you rate your sexual relationship today? (Each of you may have different ratings and that is okay.)

4. What is one thing you can do to improve your sexual relationship?

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