Surviving DivorceSýnishorn

Coping with Your Emotions

After a separation or a divorce, you will have to make many practical and legal decisions; you will also feel a range of emotions (Matthew 5:32). Relationships end for many reasons. The separation may be difficult and emotionally charged regardless of why your relationship ended. Sometimes your emotions can be so intense that you may find it difficult to deal with legal matters. After a divorce or separation, your life will change. Some things can change on the spot. Other things might change later.

The separation represents losing an important relationship, which was probably not part of your life plan. So you could be experiencing many different emotions. It is natural to feel strong emotions. You can go through a whole range of feelings: anger, fear, jealousy, anxiety, sadness, uncertainty, guilt, shame, loneliness, relief, excitement, hope, and even happiness. You might find that you switch quickly from one emotion to another, or conversely, you might experience some emotions longer than others. It’s normal. Until you feel better, you must try to deal with your emotions in a way that sets a good example for your children. This will help you and your children adapt to the changes in your life. For example, even if you’re angry, don’t criticize your ex in front of your children. Avoid expressing your emotions in social media posts your children might read or share. Find other ways to release your anger, such as physical activity or therapy (1 Peter 5:7).

Embrace the love of those around you, go out with friends, and even contact some old friends you may have neglected a little because of your love story. Dedicate all the time you think necessary to yourself, to resume or start activities that make you feel good, that put you in a good mood, that make you feel alive and transmit positive energy; even your thoughts will slowly become so. If, despite your efforts, you cannot overcome this moment, do not be afraid to ask for help from loved ones and a professional. There is nothing inappropriate with seeking professional help to recover from trauma or pain and mend wounds. Reflect on what you have been, your mistakes, your desires, your goals, and what you want to become; face the remorse, regrets, and fears; rework it all with a good dose of optimism, and leave for new opportunities (Philippians 4:7).