Wisdom for DatingSýnishorn

Overcoming Insecurity

Most of us have some quirks, habits, and traits we feel insecure about, and those insecurities can impact our relationships with others.

A 2007 study by authors from major universities found that as many as 81 percent of the participants lied in their online dating profiles. What tempts us to misrepresent ourselves to people whose approval we desire? Does it have to do with insecurity?

Maybe someone told you something hurtful about your body which still causes you to feel shame. Or you find it difficult to connect with others. Maybe you have a voice in your head telling you lies like you’re “too boring” or “too high maintenance” to date.

Insecurity often sounds like a voice in our head telling us we’re not good enough. It impacts how we view our body, personality, and abilities. And if we’re being honest, we all feel insecure about something.

So how can you overcome insecurity? One way is to apply truth and wisdom from Scripture throughout your life. You are not who other people say you are. You are not what you imagine others think of you. You are God’s child, and He loves you. He’s called you, given you gifts, and has a purpose for your life.

Scripture shows us how God sees us as loved, known, wanted, cared for, and pursued. How might these truths transform the why, whether, when, how, and who of dating for you?

Challenge: Consider some worries or insecurities you have about dating. Then, reflect on today’s verses and consider how Jesus’ care, compassion, and purpose for you can help you overcome insecurity.