Our Keys to Healthier Communication in MarriageSýnishorn

LET IT GO

David: Sometimes the argument is over, but the feelings remain. Other times the memory of a harsh word replays in your mind long after the argument has ended. But if you allow your argument to endure for too long, then unforgiveness will ruin your relationship. Tam and I have decided to just L-I-G – let it go. It does not diminish my feelings or hers, but my decision to let it go frees me from my own self-induced prison. I don’t know about you, but the last thing I want is to look at my spouse and only see the pain I caused. I don’t want to become the object of her deepest pain. 

Forgiveness is not easy, but it is always worth it. Remember, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each another, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32 NIV). It’s impossible to have a successful relationship if you don’t forgive. If you’re willing to extend the same grace that God has extended to you, your marriage will flourish. 

ACTIVITY: FIVE RULES FOR FIGHTING

Come up with five rules to implement whenever you argue. These rules will help to make sure that one bad moment doesn’t turn into a miserable marriage. For example: When we argue, I will not cut you off while you are speaking.