Exposing Seven Lies of Lust Sýnishorn

Day Four: Lie #4 – Different will Heal

So many men get scarred and wounded as boys and young men. Your parents may have been neglectful or abusive. Someone may have physically, sexually, or emotionally abused you. You might never have heard you were loved, awesome, or a great son.

Men often have early romantic relationships that are hurtful. You may have had your heart broken, been rejected, not chosen, or felt unwanted or unloved by a woman for whom you had feelings. This is where the lust inside of you may seize the opportunity and come alongside you to say, “If you had someone or something different or new, then you could be healed of that pain.” Lust makes you temporarily leave reality, but the minute you come back, you realize the pain is still there.

Over time, your skills to address these hurts become weaker and weaker, and soon you will readily follow lust into the lie that something different will heal you. Whatever it is, you will come to believe different is for you, whether it be images, fantasy, or women. But it cannot and will not heal you.

Sadly, lust leaves you less fulfilled, even with the amazing woman God gave you (or will give you). Lust is a liar. If just having someone or something different brought healing, all those men sitting in my office that spent time with different wouldn’t be there. They believed different would change their lives, but instead, it destroyed them.

Work it Out

1. Do you have hurts from your past that lust has offered its medicine to heal?

2. What are some of these hurts?

3. Over the years, what have you learned when you’ve spent time with lust and it strung you along, offering you different as a solution?

4. How has being with your wife (if you are married) brought healing to your life?