Blending A Family 40 day DevotionalSýnishorn

Building Family Unity

When people marry they share vows to express a commitment to love, honor, stand by, and share life together in good and bad times.

In our early married life, we had a lot of disagreements and arguments. We were not seeing our spouse as the gift God intended.

I asked myself, 

• “If we vowed to become one with each other, why are we so divided?”
• “What happened to the commitments we made to each other?”
• “What happened to the excitement we shared while dating?”

The answer lied in our motives. We were two strong-willed people before we met. Our self-centeredness became the root of our disagreements. As we tried to change each other, we were pushing each other away and draining life out of each other.

Unity is, “the state of being joined together, agreement”.

Oneness is, “unity of thought, feeling, belief, goals”.

Next to God, our spouse is (should be) our most important relationship. Communication is the beginning of unity, as each focuses on knowing the thoughts, fears, worries, and dreams within each other.  

Suggestions:

Pray often for your family, asking the Holy Spirit to help you understand each heart. 

Include every member (including adult children) in family fun and activities.

Let your anniversary celebrate your wedding day, as well as the day you started living life with your spouse’s children. Celebrate your life together, with a gift (flowers, card, or other token) of your appreciation. When we invest in our spouse’s children, we love our spouse more completely.

As a family, pick a day each month to serve your community (meals, a food kitchen, nursing home, hospital visits, cleaning someone’s yard.) 

Create new traditions for your new family (holidays, birthdays, special celebrations, your ideas.)

Recall the vows you shared at your wedding. Is there growth toward unity? 

How can you serve your spouse and stepchildren better?

Our prayer for you:

Jesus You are “one” with the Father. You gave Your life to remove our sins, and adopted us. You stop at nothing to demonstrate Your unconditional and faithful love. Help us love our self, our spouse and new children with the selfless love You show us! Guide our thoughts and steps to build our family, in the Name of Jesus!

Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry