Daily Habits Of Marital Intimacy - 10 Day Reading PlanPrimjer

Day 6: Relational Intimacy

Relational intimacy is the interactive parts of your relationship. As you journey together, consider three areas in your communication and connection as I reference them as God Time, Couch Time, and Table Time. 

God Time. It is always your first stop in growing your relationship. Your time with God needs to be front and center, ever present, an integral part of your personal and marital journey. It is here you receive healing for every hurt, forgive one another, and hear what truths you need to believe. Please do not move to second stop, Couch Time, until you have engaged in your God Time first. 

Couch Time. The primary purpose of Couch Time is for listening in order to understand the thoughts, feelings, and desires (your TFDs) of your partner. Whether you are discussing a topic of interest, telling one another about your day, or seeking a solution to a problem, sharing your thoughts, feelings, and desires from your healthy I is very important. Remember, there are two voices, and both need to be given time to express themselves. 

Table Time. Your third stop is Table Time. It is meant to help you work towards a solution for further growth of the relationship. The bottom line: Solving a problem is for the growth of your US. Keep growth as your focus. 

Reflection: Keep God close beside you; invite Him in on every aspect of your life and your marriage. This is your greatest safeguard for your marriage. You need Jesus like you need air, food, and water to do your life and your marriage every day! Challenge yourself from your God relationship: how can I improve my listening and value two voices and move stronger towards the focus of growth in my marriage? Remember, marriage is a constant, continual process of nurturing, listening, connecting, changing, and growing.