Sex Is Good a 5-Day Devotional for Wives by Debra CheekSample

We Need Sex Too

Scripture: Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does - 1 Corinthians 7:3-4

There is a popular thought that sex is just for men, but nothing could be further from the truth. God designed sex to benefit both the husband and the wife.

If we begin to think that sex is something we are doing for our husbands, it is easy to start treating it as a chore. We won’t approach it with joy or excitement, and our lack of enthusiasm can become offensive to our husbands.

If we aren’t careful, our attitude that we are doing this for our husbands can lead us to use sex as a manipulation tool. If there is something we want, or if we want to put our husbands in a good mood, we can begin to use sex to get the outcome we prefer.

Even further, we can begin to reward our punish our husbands with sex. If we are offended or angry, we withhold sex to let them know how unhappy we are. We put barriers in place so that they know not even to suggest romance, and by doing so, we are creating distance between us.

God never designed sex to be a weapon. It was His idea for sex to be a tool for drawing a married couple closer together and never something in our arsenal to cause destruction. So, we have to remember that it is for our mutual benefit.

Wives need and should desire sex too. God equipped us emotionally and physically to engage in and enjoy sex. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 reminds us that both parties have needs that their spouse should meet. When we deny our need for sex or minimize its importance to our lives and marriage, we also ignore and dismiss God’s word to us in this area.

There are valid instances in which one’s sex drive may be lessened due to trauma, stress, or physical ailments. Still, if there is a pattern of not desiring or engaging in sex from sheer neglect of its importance, we can seek help and support from God’s word and trusted professionals.

Sex isn’t just for the husband. God wants us as wives to enjoy sex, desire sex, and prioritize sex in our marriages.

Reflection:

In what circumstances do you find that you are neglecting sex or just not thinking about it?

What parameters can you put into place to prioritize your sexual health?