Overcoming Infidelity-C.A.S.T. Method for Recoveryনমুনা

Infidelity! For some, just seeing the word is a trigger, let alone having to discuss it. This is probably one of the toughest and most rewarding challenges we have faced in our marriage. We didn't have a framework or support system to access when major things happened in our marriage. We were barely saved and living a Christian lifestyle. But...we had to figure it out! Through the process, God has given us a system. A method of approach that has helped us stay together for 30 years. Usually, we would get you excited about what we will be teaching you, give it to you, and then sum it up in the end. If you are here and reading this...You are most likely not very happy! So, this is a different approach for a different situation.

Before we dive into what the Holy Spirit has given us for this devotional, hear me when I say that everything that we face in life is connected to our journey. It is not a destination that we eventually "arrive" at. For some of you, Infidelity has you at your breaking point, and it will break you if you let it. That is not God's desire. It is our prayer and desire that because you are reading this devotional together, you have decided to fight.

Proverbs 3:5-8 is a great start to getting some movement. You both cannot rely on your own understanding. You have to do the uncomfortable work. If you can just get in agreement according to Matthew 18: 19-20, you can win...TOGETHER! Agreement is a major thing. Amos 3:3 asks the question that Jesus answers in Matthew chapter 18:19-20. It will take Isaiah 1:18, 1 Corinthians 13:4-9 and many others to right this ship! It's important that you both lean into the Word like never before! We could not have made it without God, and neither will you.

The C.A.S.T. Method, our solution and approach to overcoming infidelity, is the beginning of this journey. Before healing takes place, you need a C.A.S.T. A cast is designed to stop further damage to something that has been severely injured, broken, or dislocated, like an ankle, knee, or shoulder. Our C.A.S.T. method does the same thing with Infidelity. The person who has committed the offense and the person who experienced it both have healing to do. This event is a catalyst for change. If you are the offender, God and your spouse are looking for repentance. Despite your decision, you had other choices. If you experienced the offense, you do have to FORGIVE if you desire your marriage to work. There's a difference between forgiveness and healing. One God commands us to do so that He will forgive us. The other is healing, which is a process. No one gets to tell you how long it will take to heal. As you both prepare for tomorrow and we dive into this devotional, we recommend that you:

• Pray together First
• Show up transparently
• Be prepared to take a break if needed
• Discuss and set in motion what you will both do after each day (beginning with today) to create an environment for healing.

Remember, this is not possible if neither of you is committed to the process. Tomorrow, we begin our journey with the first letter in our recovery method: "C," which stands for Cutting off Connections.