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Marriage Is Falling on Your Face Together

Ever run a three-legged race? It’s unbelievably easy to fall on your face. Doing it well is a learned skill—getting a couple of “I’s” to function as a “we.” (See where we’re going with this?) 

Marriage requires nothing short of teamwork—which eventually matures into a fluid oneness that wins. And not to oversimplify it, but maybe that starts with acknowledging you are on the same team. That your spouse isn’t your enemy. 

Teamwork requires both trusting and being trustworthy. It means that when your mate looks over at you, your loyal, tangible support isn’t a question, but a statement. 

It’s the ability to appreciate what your spouse brings to the race—that his or her different desires, views, and strengths are part of what makes you a killer “we” for every obstacle. 

Action points: You read today’s verse. Is your unity an actual unity of mind? Because all of us can get good at faking it. Is it hard to put yourself in your spouse’s shoes (i.e., empathy)? To respond with tenderness and humility from the inside out? Choose one way you’ll focus on being “we.”