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Patience & Parenting

DAY 2 OF 5

Quick to Listen

“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” James 1:19

James, who was the half-brother of Jesus, wrote in his letter a few action steps to become a more patient person. He writes: “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (James 1:19). That’s pretty opposite of how most of us respond when we’re in conflict. Chances are, we respond with, “I’m not listening; I’m going to tell you exactly how I feel right now,” while our face gets flushed. Our kids do that to us, don’t they? But James is giving us a secret on how to respond well to our kids and others.Whydo we respond with patience? Because it’s love’s first characteristic.Howdo we respond with patience? By first being quick to listen.

Being quick to listen means that we don’t drown out the words of our kids by talking over them. It means that we allow them to speak first, even when we are frustrated or angry. Why does this help us become more patient with them? It shows that we care enough about them to hear from them first. It shows that what they say is just as important as what we have to say, even if we know and will still do what’s best for them. It calms us down long enough to hear things from their perspective. We don’t like it when we get talked over or don’t get to explain our side of the story - and so do our kids. If we want to become more patient, we’ve got to be quick to listen first.

Questions to think about:

Do I talk over my kids when I get frustrated, or do I let them speak first?

How might being quick to listen change how my interactions with my children go in the middle of a conflict?

Prayer:

God, thanks for the reminder to be quick to listen, slow to speak, andslowto get angry. Thank you for listening to me when I talk to you, and I pray that I would show my family you, and I pray that I would show my family and my kids how much I love them by choosing to listen to them each day. Amen

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Patience & Parenting

As parents, we all want to be the best version of ourselves with our kids. But having real patience can be one of the hardest parts of parenting - no matter how old your children are. In this Five-Day Bible Reading Plan, we'll explore how to practice patience in the face of frustration as a parent and why it's so important that we learn to value patience as a virtue.

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