Hacking Dating: A Dating Guide for Christiansናሙና

Keep an Open Mind and Heart

Keeping an open mind and heart while dating as a Christian is all about trust. Being open requires faith that God will work everything out in His perfect timing. It means you can stop worrying about when or how you’ll meet someone and whether or not they’re your future spouse. And it makes dating easier and more enjoyable!

Keep an Open Mind When it Comes to How You Meet New People

You can search the Bible, but it never says couples who meet at a church function are more blessed than those who meet on a dating app. The truth is you don’t know when, where, or how you’ll meet the person God has for you. It could be at a business conference, through a mutual friend, or at the gym. The key is to put yourself out there and be open to an unexpected meeting in the middle of the grocery store or on an app that forever changes your life.

Keep an Open Mind When it Comes to Who You Meet

God looks at someone’s heart, and so should you. While attraction is an aspect of dating, it’s not the only or most important thing. Loving the Lord trumps looks any day. And respect, honesty, and kindness are worth way more than good hair or a fit body. So, don’t write someone off just because they don’t check all your boxes. While some “boxes” are non-negotiable–like beliefs–others are, like a person’s career path or education level, or height. Attraction can grow over time, and good looks tend to fade as you get older. So, if you’re looking for someone to spend your life with, keep an open mind and be willing to get to know someone a bit different than want you’ve always imagined. They may turn out to be even better than your “boxes.”

Keep an Open Heart When it Comes to What Your Friends and Family Think

The people who love you the most will likely have lots to say about the people you start dating. Listen carefully to them, and keep an open heart to consider what they say. Sometimes, it’s hard to see how a person isn’t right for you when you’re caught up in the excitement of a new relationship. Similarly, you might not see how someone is so right for you, but your friends and family can help open your eyes to it. This doesn’t mean your friends and family are always right or that you have to do what they say. But they can give you advice that may help you navigate the dating world with a bit more support, accountability, and ease.

Keep an Open Heart When it Comes to When You Meet “the One”

Timing is everything, and God’s timing is the only time that matters. If it’s not His will for you to meet your forever person in the next year, plan to be single. If it is His will for you to be married within the year, start picking out china patterns. Again, it all comes down to trusting God’s plan for your life. When you trust Him, you can date with an open mind and heart and not put pressure on the process but enjoy it instead.