Boy Momናሙና

Your Most Rewarding Work

When my boys were little, I so badly wanted to be a great mom, but it was a lot harder than I had imagined it would be. As difficult as I found those years, they gifted me with a humble aware­ness that I wasn’t the naturally awesome mom I had always told myself I would be. 

A few years ago, when my boys were quite a bit older, I wrote a blog post called, “What a Teenage Boy Needs Most from His Mom.” It struck a chord. People especially responded to the fact that I spoke of enjoying the teenage years with my boys. Apparently, word on the street is that all the fun of raising boys ends when they become teenagers.

I was eager to tell moms that this didn’t have to be their experience. Moms want a game plan for raising boys who do not conform to culture but stand strong in their convictions. They also want to know, just as I did all those years ago when my four boys were babies and toddlers, what really matters most. 

I want to encourage you in your relationship with your son. I want to say again (and again and again) that, yes, you can raise a great son even in today’s culture. But I also want to say honestly that it won’t happen by chance. 

In fact, without intentional parenting there is a good chance that all those things people warn you about will happen. Your son is more likely to be pulled downstream by the current of culture if you do not actively engage in upstream parenting. 

I’m not suggesting we can control our sons or that their entire futures depend on us. I believe in a very big God, and I know without a doubt that He is guiding and caring for our sons every step of the way. I also believe that this very big God has given you and me the great privilege and responsibility of parenting with intention and heart.

My goal is to help you as a Boy Mom embrace your role with joy and confidence. I promise it’s not more work; it’s intentional work. 

And it is the most rewarding work you’ll ever do. 

Write down your five greatest prayers for your son. What are some of the attributes you would like your son to have ten years from now?