In Love & Always Arguingናሙና

And The Winner is…. US 

There shouldn't only be one winner in an argument  You’ve fallen for the enemy’s tricks if one of you feels defeated and beaten after a disagreement. 

You can avoid a lot of damage just by changing your perspective about disagreements. 

Remember that you both have the same enemy, therefore both of you should not allow the enemy to have any access to what you are building. Don’t open the door for any of his devices, whether it’s by lashing out or putting up a wall. If your partner points out a character flaw or habit that is not conducive to what you are building, do not go into attack mode. Ask God to give you the patience and the understanding you need to hear about yourself. 

Love is not only about hearing someone tell you why they love you 24/7. You will never grow in that kind of environment. Some of us have been hiding behind our success, lack, and image for years. There are some character traits that you never knew were there and there are others which you have been ignoring for a while. This is why it is crucial that we understand the fullness of each other’s story. When I truly know my partners story, it enables me to have grace for them even in the midst of a disagreement. Grace doesn’t mean we make excuses for our partner or excuse toxic behavior. Grace allows you to put yourself in their shoes, even when you feel like the weight of your shoes is already too much.

You are a team. Imagine a football team playing against themselves, instead of their opposing team - they’ll never make it in any league playing like this! Every time you abuse your partner in anyway, you are abusing yourself and disrespecting God. You then become the barrier that stops the both of you from uprooting whatever is causing confusion between you two. Strive to strengthen your bond because there is power in the duo, as Scripture shows us in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. In this way, you and your partner will be able to say “And the Winner is US!” after disagreements, and your enemy will have to walk away defeated.