How To Protect Your HusbandVoorbeeld

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Your husband needs to be safe when in your presence. His heart needs to be safe with me. His heart cannot be safe when he cannot trust me or if he is worried I will degrade him. Proverbs 31:26 says that our words need to be encouraging and respectful towards our husbands.

Take a moment to think over the conversations your friends have with you. An elderly lady once shared with me that when I say negative things about my husband to my friends that I am actually committing emotional adultery. That was quite radical but helped me to always weigh how I speak about my husband or how I speak to my friends about their husbands. 

Proverbs 20:19 says, ”gossip betrays confidence, so avoid a person that talks too much”. 

This verse is intended for all relationships but how much more so for a marriage covenant relationship. 

This sacred bond has to be celebrated and protected! Do not fall into the trap of gossiping about your husband. Choose your friends wisely. Choose friends that will honour your marriage and speak respectfully of their own husbands too.

Whenever he does everything right, it is easy to apply Proverbs 31:26. How much more important that we still apply the principle of this scripture when he falters. 

My husband needs to know that I am on his side. When you want to use harsh words, take a moment and think of everything he actually does right. I remind myself that harsh words speak of a hardened heart. We need to speak kind words to our husbands if we want to protect him. 

Take stock of that which is in your heart because we shower our husbands with the overflow of our hearts.