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DEALING WITH SEXUAL MATTERS IN MARRIAGE

I want to continue today from where I stopped yesterday concerning one of the major problems in marriage, which is, SEX MATTERS. I told you that most Christians want to shy away from this, but that is not the best approach. Whenever the pastor gets on the matter of sex in church, everybody wants to wear the Saint Mary look. There was a brother when we were growing up and he was about the holiest brother that you could see. He was always saying, “Don’t talk about sex”. I said, “Bro, you are not holy” and he was surprised. Today, among all of us at that time who got married, he has the highest number of children. He had children every year, yet he said we shouldn’t talk about sex.

A woman raised a question years ago: “My husband wants to kiss me, but his mouth smells. How do I go about this? If I tell him, he will be offended." Many women face that problem and it is affecting their sexual lives. If you don’t tell him, somebody will tell him outside in a bad way. So, how you tell him is where wisdom comes in. In that case, you can buy him a mouthwash. You will be the first to start using it and then invite him to join you. You can also arrange for the two of you to see the dentist together for some professional touch to the mouth odour. Allowing mouth odour to affect your sexual life without dealing with it is foolish. So, don’t gloss over sex matters. If you are not mature enough to talk about sex, you are not mature enough for marriage.

PRAYER: I receive the boldness to take the necessary steps and adjustments to make my marriage a heaven on earth. Amen!