Umshado

Ukuthandana

ukwehlukanisa

Ucansi

Ukukhulisa Ulusha

Ukukhulisa Izingane Ezincane

Ubungane

Lolu hlelo lokufunda luhlanganisa ukuzinikela ekufundeni okuyisikhombisa kwansuku zonke okusekelwe kuhlelo lwezifundo luka-Louie Giglio olu(hlobene): Ukwenza Ubudlelwano busebenze. Lolu cwaningo luzohlola ukuthi yini eyenza sihlobane nabanye, ukuthi uNkulunkulu angakuletha kanjani ukuthula phakathi kwezingxabano, nokuthi singasiza kanjani ekubuyiseleni ubudlelwano obubonakala bubhidlikile bungenakulungiseka.

Kuyahlo(bana): Ukwenza Ubudlelwano Busebenze

Kubonakala sengathi ubudlelwano bukhona yonke indawo lapho ubheka khona. Akukhathaleki ukuthi ukomunye, ulinde oyedwa, noma awushadile, sonke singasebenza endaweni efanayo ebudlelwaneni bethu—thina ngokwethu. Kulolu Hlelo lwezinsuku ezi-5, sizobheka ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthandeka—futhi ungase umangale.

Uyathandeka

Ubudlelwano

Izinkinga zomshado zingehlisa noma ngubani phansi kepha uNkulunkulu unokuhlakanipha eZwini lakhe okungaguqula umshado onzima ube mnandi. Umlingani othengisa kakhulu we-NYT uBruce Wilkinson noHeather Hair abalingani kulolu hlelo lokufunda lokuzinikela lwezinsuku ezintathu ukusiza ukukuqondisa kule ndlela.

Lapho Umshado Uba nzima

Ngokugxila emshadweni wethu ngokomongo womBhalo, sinikeza uNkulunkulu ithuba lokuveza ukuqonda okusha ngobudlelwano bethu nokuqinisa isibopho sethu. Lolu hlelo lubonisa indinyana egxile emBhalweni kanye nemicabango esheshayo usuku ngalunye ukuqala ingxoxo nokuthandaza nomlingani wakho. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezinhlanu ukuzibophezela kwesikhashana ukukusiza ukuthi utshale imali ebudlelwaneni bakho bempilo yonke. Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe okuqukethwe, bheka finds.life.church 

Uthando no Mshado

Noma nini lapho othile ebuza ukuthi siyakholelwa yini ocansini ngaphambi komshado siphendula ngokuthi "yebo no cha." Impendulo edidayo ekuqaleni, kepha isinikeza ithuba lokwenza iphuzu elibalulekile. Unkulunkulu uqinisekisa ubulili bethu njengabantu futhi asikwazi ngokuzumayo ukuba yi-asexual. Ngalesi sizathu, sikholelwa kwezocansi ngaphambi komshado. Siyashesha ukulandela, noma kunjalo, ngokuthi ukwenza ucansi lobulili ngaphambi komshado ngokusobala akuhambisani nezimiso zikaNkulunkulu. 

Ungasindisa Kanjani Ucansi Ukuze Ushade?

Wake waba sendaweni lapho udidekile ngokuthi iyini intando kaNkulunkulu esimweni esithile?

Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezingu-3 luhlola ukuthi singathola kanjani intando Yakhe - kokubili, intando Yakhe ejwayelekile, kanye nentando Yakhe eqondile ezimpilweni zethu.

Ukuqonda Intando KaNkulunkulu

Kulolu hlelo lweLife.Church Bible Plan, imibhangqwana eyisithupha ibhala ngezifungo zomshado eziyisithupha abangakaze bazisho ngokusemthethweni e-altare. Lezi zifungo zokuzilungiselela, ukubeka phambili, ukulandela, ukubambisana, ubumsulwa, nokuthandaza yizifungo ezenza imishado isebenze kade kudlula umshado. Noma ngabe ushadile noma ucabanga nje ngakho, sekuyisikhathi sokwenza isithembiso.  

Isifungo

Kulolu cwaningo, sizokuqondisa ohambweni lobudlelwano oluhlanganisa izindlela ezingu-12 ezibalulekile zokuba Nothando Oluhlala Njalo.    

Izinsuku Ezingu-12 Zothando Oluhlala Njalo

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukwazi ukuthi uthando luyini. Kodwa bayingcosana abantu abaya ebhayibhelini ukuthola ukuthi lithini ngothando. Uthando lweyizinye zezingqalazinto zezibhalo nezinto ezibalulekile zempilo yomzalwane. Loluhlelo lease Thistlebend Ministries lufundisa ngencazo yebhayibheli mayelana nothando nokumthanda kahulu uNkulunkulu nabanye.

Luyini uthando lweqiniso?

Imishado eqinile ayivele izithuthukise. Ithemba lethu ukuthi uzothola izimo zengqondo, izindinganiso nemikhuba edingekayo ukwakha umshado onempilo noqinile oyohlala impilo yonke. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezinhlanu luthathwe kwi-The Pre-Marriage Course eyenziwe nguNicky noSila Lee, ababhali beThe Marriage Book.

Inkambo Yangaphambi Komshado

Sesha i-#RelationshipGoals ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, futhi uzothola izithombe ezibonakala ziphelele zabashadile abathandanayo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma umbono wobudlelwano umphakathi wethu owuthengisayo ungamanga? Umfundisi uMichael Todd ubhale Izinjongo Zobudlelwane: Indlela Yokunqoba Ekujoleni, Umshado, kanye Nocansi mayelana nokuba nemigomo yobudlelwano evela kuNkulunkulu futhi ihambisane nalokho Asenze ukuba sibe yikho. 

Imigomo Yobudlelwano

Awukho umshado ophelele ngoba umshado uwukuhlangana kwabantu ababili abangaphelele. Kodwa ngosizo lukaNkulunkulu, ungaba nomshado omuhle-hhayi ngokumcela ukuba alungise owakwakho, kodwa ngokumcela ukuba enze umsebenzi enhliziyweni yakho. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezi-5 luzokusiza ukuthi uthole ukuphulukiswa, ukuthula, kanye nokuzethemba kuKristu ukuze uthande owakwakho kahle futhi uguqule umshado wakho.

Ukuphila Kushintshile: Emshadweni

Njengabalandeli bakaJesu sikholelwa ukuthi uNkulunkulu uluthando, kodwa ezikhathini eziningi ikhono lethu lokuthanda abanye liyinselelo enkulu. Mhlawumbe lokho kungenxa yokuthi uthando aluwona nje umuzwa noma umzwelo onamandla. Uthando luwuMuntu. Thatha uhambo ngo-1 KwabaseKorinte 13 futhi uthole uMuntu wothando nokuthi, Ngaye, singabathanda kanjani abanye kangcono.

Uthando LunguMuntu

Kuthiwani uma singakalwa ngezinto esizifezile, kodwa sinikwa amandla ubudlelwane bethu? Ngezindaba eziqabulayo, umbhali uRoger Thompson wembula uhlobo lobudlelwane bamandla obusetshenziswa ekulolongeni indoda. Qala lolu hlelo lweBhayibheli lwe-Life.Church nabanye abangani namuhla.

Iseluleko Sobudlelwane Kwabesilisa

Ithathwe encwadini yakhe entsha ethi "A Lifelong Love," uGary Thomas ukhuluma ngezinjongo zaphakade zomshado. Funda amathuluzi asebenzayo ukusiza ukwakha umshado wakho ube ubudlelwano obukhuthazayo, ukusabalalisa impilo engokomoya kwabanye.

Phefumulela Intshiseko Yomoya Emshadweni Wakho

Kuthathwe encwadini yabo ethi "Getting Ready for Marriage," joyina ochwepheshe bezobudlelwano uJim Burns noDoug Fields njengoba bekusiza ukuthi uqale manje ukuhlelela ubudlelwane ubuhlala njalo. Ezezimali, abasekhweni, ukuxhumana, ukuxolelana, okulindelekile ocansini, asikho isihloko esinqunyelwe njengoba wena nomngani wakho womshado nilungiselela ukusuka ekuthembiseni ningene esivumelwaneni sempilo yonke komunye nomunye.

Ukulungiselela Umshado

Senzanjani uma kubukeka sengathi amaphupho ethu awafinyeleleki noma ayashabalala? Njengonqobe ukuhukumezeka nokukhathazeka, kanye nokwephuka kwenhliziyo ngenxa yedivosi, sengike ngabhekana nalombuzo izikhathi eziningi. Noma ngabe ubhekene nobuhlungu besigemegeme noma bokulahlekelwa, noma ukukhungatheka ngenxa yokulinda isikhathi eside, iphupho ngo Nkulunkulu lisaphila! Mhlobo, isikhathi sokuphinda uphuphe.

Amaphupho Ahlengiwe

Udkt. Tim Elmore ujoyina i-Life.Church ukuze wabelane Ngamaphutha Amakhulu Angu-12 Angagwenywa Abazali. Sonke sifunela izingane zethu okungcono kakhulu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi izinhloso zethu ezinhle zidukisa izindlela zazo. Masilungise inkambo futhi siholele izingane zethu ekubeni abantu abadala abaphumelelayo nabalandeli bakaKristu abazinikele ngokugcwele. Ukuze uthole okunye okuqukethwe, bheka okuningi ku-finds.life.church 

Amaphutha Amakhulu angu-12 Angagwenywa Abazali

Unkulunkulu uvame ukusebenza ngabantu esinabo ezimpilweni zethu. Ngakho, obani abangani bakho? Ungumngani onjani kwabanye? Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku eziyisikhombisa luzokukhombisa ubungani bangempela kanye nesibusiso uNkulunkulu asinikeza ngobungani.

Ubungani

Ezikhathini eziningi kuba nzima ukwabelana ngevangeli nabangani bethu. Kuphakathi kokuthi sinqotshwa ukwesaba noma asazi ukuthi sizokwabelana ngani. Sonke sidinga umthwalo ukuze sifinyelele kubangane bethu abalahlekile bakaKristu. Lolu wuhlelo lokufunda iBhayibheli lwezinsuku ezingu-21 olusisiza ukuthi sizindle ngokukhethekile ngezindima eziphathelene nokushumayela ivangeli futhi luhambisana nomkhuleko omfishane wosuku ngalunye lwabangane bethu. 

Izinsuku ezingu-21 zokuThandazela Abangani 

Singafunda kanjani ukuphila njengoJesu uma singaqali ngokuthanda njengaYe? Funda kanye nabasebenzi nabalingani be-Life.Church ngenkathi bekhuluma ngabakwaziyo kanye nemiBhalo enza bafise ukuphila impilo egcwele nokuThanda Njengo Jesu.

Thanda Njengo Jesu

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi labo abasondelene kakhulu nathi bangasilimaza kakhulu. Njengoba sihlukunyezwa ukukhashelwa, sakha izindonga ezizungeze izinhliziyo zethu ukuze zisivikele ebuhlungwini benhliziyo, nokho lezi yizona kanye izindonga ezisivimba ekuboneni ithemba, ukuthola ukuphulukiswa nokuzwa uthando. Yisikhathi sokudiliza izindonga zakho, usebenze ngamanxeba akho, ulungise ubudlelwano obonakele futhi uthole amandla enhliziyo evulekile.