Seek Your Refuge

Are you stuck in a cycle of trying to get pregnant but not wanting to face disappointment again and again? Infertility is devastating. It’s a pain you can’t ignore or erase. If we were sitting together, chatting over coffee or tea, I’d put my hand on yours and tell you I’m sorry. This journey is hard. Few other problems threaten a woman’s physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being more than those related to childbearing.

Though disappointment might cause you to question God’s goodness, his Word assures us that he will always be our refuge in times of want and waiting.

Look at what he promises to those of us who are crying out for help:

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)

“The Lord upholds all who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down.” (Psalm 145:14)

“But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love.” (Psalm 33:18)

“For who is God besides the Lord? And who is the Rock except our God?” (2 Samuel 22:32)

God is your steady companion through the relentless letdowns of infertility. Turning to him will give you a safe landing place after your dreams collapse. As the waiting process jerks your emotions up, down, and sideways, know that the Lord your God is right there with you in the struggle. His eyes are on you, his precious daughter. His arms surround you with never-wavering love. When you’re searching for the strength to get through the next cycle or simply the next day, look to God as your Rock.

If you have trusted Christ for salvation, he rescued you by sacrificing himself on the cross. He redeemed you from eternal hopelessness and raised you to a beautiful, Spirit-filled life. Nothing—not even the whiplashes of infertility and waiting—can shake his love for you.

Jesus is your refuge in this turbulent journey. Turn to him, and he will bring comfort to your crushed heart.

Pray

Dear Father, right now, my spirit feels crushed. It’s hard to keep trusting when I’m so tired of disappointment. Help me remember that you care and are always near. Fix my heart on who you are so I can hope even when I’m feeling let down.

Respond

Go to a Bible website and search for characteristics of God. Then write a list of five traits that stand out to you—for example, faithful, all-powerful, gracious, compassionate, and always present. Place the list in your home, car, office, or somewhere you’ll see it often as a reminder of who he is.