Saving a Marriage

Devotional Content: 

One person cannot make a marriage work. No matter how much you want an Awesome Marriage, you cannot do it alone. It is interesting that one person can destroy a marriage all by themself. That one spouse can end all that was built and all the hopes and dreams of the future. Yet, if a marriage is to be rebuilt, it takes two. As Emily came more and more on board, the marriage she thought was lost forever began to rise out of the devastation. Aiden did what I think is one of the most difficult steps in rebuilding a marriage; he was patient. As much as he wanted this marriage to work, he had to wait on Emily and that turned out to be a long wait.  

If you find yourselves in Emily and Aiden’s shoes, here are some of the things they did that were essential to healing. First, they got help. Aiden reached out first to a trusted Christian friend who proved invaluable in the process. Emily reached out to a professional. That was a big step in the right direction by getting someone who understood what it would take to heal this marriage. Second, in their own way they both grieved the loss of the marriage they once had together. This had to happen before a new marriage could be built. Third, they both made important life changes.  God became first every day and then second came each other. God first. Spouse second. I promise it works! They carved out time alone together every day. At the right time they began date nights and nothing got in the way of these times together. Finally, they prayed. It was difficult and awkward at first but became easier and more frequent as time passed.  

Just wanting a marriage to heal is not enough. It takes time and work and of course, God. I promise you this though - it will be worth it. Without a doubt, it will be worth it.

Today’s Challenge: Make a commitment to take time to spend talking with each other each day undistracted by anything else. 

Going Deeper:

1. Dr. Kim shares that being patient is vital to saving your marriage when infidelity has occurred. Pray and ask God to help you be patient as you walk through the process of healing and rebuilding trust in your marriage. 

2. What needs to change in order for you to build a marriage that you can both value? 

3. Pray and ask God to heal your marriage and help you work towards building an awesome marriage.