Love That Lasts 5- Day Devotional Намуна

How did I know Alyssa was the one? Because I married her. She became the one the minute I committed my life to her. I know it’s really unromantic, but Alyssa and I agree that we both could’ve married someone else and probably been totally happy and have had a great life.

It’s not about finding the mythical magical unicorn but about finding someone who will be a great partner for life. And frankly, “the one” doesn’t really make sense from a logical standpoint. All it would take is for one guy fifteen hundred years ago to marry the wrong person (not the one for him), and he would create an endless cycle all the way down to you and me since he married someone else’s “the one” and so on and so on. 

Though we don’t like to admit it, trying to find the one stalls growth in ourselves because our idea of the one essentially becomes whoever will make us change the least or whoever is so perfectly suited for us that we don’t need to grow, learn, or change.

It also crushes the other person because no one can carry that weight. People disappoint each other, hurt each other, and we all have struggles and sins. Viewing another person as your savior is a crushing calling. Only Jesus can handle the weight of that burden, and when we understand the weight of our expectation, it frees us and the other person to become who God wants us to be. 

In God’s providence, there is a certain level of weaving and moving and bringing two people together. If you’re not already married, it’s possible God has someone for you who you might not even know yet. So we have to be careful. Alyssa and I have seen people justify divorce because, well, their spouse just “wasn’t the one.” For Alyssa and me, it was actually incredibly freeing when we realized that there were plenty of people we could have married, but we chose each other. That’s what matters.