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Who are you calling stupid?

Most of the time, calling someone stupid is not a very good idea. In the first verse of Proverbs 12, however, that is exactly what Solomon does. The Message softens the language a bit and uses the word, “Shortsighted.” Who does Solomon call stupid or shortsighted? The person who rejects correction. The strong language from Solomon demonstrates the importance of this advice. If we are honest, we all typically try to avoid discipline because discipline usually hurts.

Our perspective can shift, however, if we focus on the purpose of correction and discipline rather than the pain it brings. The purpose of wise correction is to help us avoid mistakes, become more wise, and live the life God desires for us. The fool, however, does not understand the purpose of discipline and only sees the uncomfortable pain it brings. It is important for us to see that our parents, coaches, and teachers are correcting us so we can become the best version of ourselves.

In addition to Solomon’s encouragement to receive correction, another theme emerges in this proverb – the idea of honesty. Look at verses 17, 19, and 22. Permanence and favor come with the truth. Think about your group of friends; your longest friendships are probably with people who have been honest with you over the years. Also, there is a good chance that if you had a friend that continually lied to you, your friendship would not last very long. People who lie have a hard time staying in one place for long periods of time, whether that is in leadership, on teams, or in relationships.

Dishonest people tend to move from group to group because eventually they break people’s trust with their lies. Solomon’s advice about prioritizing honesty is actually related to the advice about receiving correction. When someone gives you honest feedback, even if it is difficult to hear, it is actually a good thing because it helps you grow as a person! A lie, however, may feel good in the moment but will never help you see the areas in your life that need attention. In the long run, honesty is better for everyone.

Bottom Line: Even when it hurts, honesty is better than lies.

Experience-

When was the last time someone lied to you? How did that make you feel?

What are some of the reasons that we lie?

Is there anyone that you have lied to that you need to go back to and make it right? If so, make this a priority this week.

Solomon’s instructions in Proverbs 12 are about honesty and integrity – not just simply lying. There are a variety of ways to be dishonest in our lives other than simply not telling the truth when someone asks you a question. Cheating, stealing, withholding information, and exaggerating are just a few examples of being dishonest. With this broader definition in mind, look back at the previous question and evaluate if there is someone you need to apologize to this week.

Pray and ask God for a spirit of honesty.