Preparing for MarriageНамуна

It’s not possible to have a good marriage without disagreements.

Every couple argues. It's normal. But it's how you handle those disagreements that matter. It's about learning to fight right. The only problem is when couples begin to see disagreements as a sign that their marriage is unhealthy or when it becomes violent, physically and/or verbally.

It gets dangerous when people don’t know how to communicate to get their point across, and instead, when they are unsuccessful, they begin to threaten divorce. This kind of fighting destroys your character and will lead to the destruction of your marriage. This behavior has repercussions far beyond just the dissolution of your marriage. It goes on to become a generational behavior.

This is especially true if children are watching as their parents argue. They’re subconsciously learning how to talk and treat a significant other.

I want to encourage you to keep these truths in mind as you prepare your mind and your life for marriage. Maturity and spirituality are not just going to church and learning how to preach. Instead, it is seen practically in the way you learn to communicate, resolve conflict, and love others. When you learn to honor your husband, love your wife, and manage your home in a way where the peace of God resides in it, you’re learning to be spiritual.

Let's Pray:
Dear Lord, help me to handle disagreements with grace and love. Teach me and my future spouse to work through our problems together, always keeping You at the center of our decisions.

Challenge: Reflect on a past disagreement and identify how it could have been resolved better.

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