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The Trap of Comparison

There is nothing more vicious than the comparison that takes place at times between mothers. As mothers we have an insatiable drive to succeed at raising our children. At times we have all wrestled the drive for our kids to dress the best, achieve the best grades, score the most points, or perform the best talents. We can become guilty of measuring our success by the output in our children’s lives. We may compare parenting styles, discipline styles, methods of education, and even the spirituality of our children.

We must examine the story of Elizabeth, mother of John the Baptist. Elizabeth’s son didn’t even carry a traditional family name to begin with. I am sure it did not help her reputation when John decided that all he wanted to wear was camel hair. Elizabeth had to overcome mother-to-mother comparison and just allow her son to be who God created him to be.

We must view our precious little ones as an answer to a problem, not the source of one. They are an answer to prayer, fully equipped in every way to fill a specific, valuable purpose in the kingdom and plan of God. Don’t be afraid of that purpose, even if it is to destroy a mold.