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Vice President Biden in My Bed

A while back, my family and I stayed at a hotel in Charlotte, North Carolina. While the bellman was bringing our bags to the room, he casually told us that the last guest to stay in this particular room was former Vice President of the United States, Joe Biden. I like to pretend that no one else has ever stayed in my hotel rooms before. The less I know, the better.

Here’s the point: When you get married, ultimately you are sleeping with whomever the person you are marrying has slept with. You are bringing into your bed whomever you have had in your bed as well. So much of marriage is selection of the right spouse and what baggage you bring into the relationship.

Stability, or the lack thereof, is the result of the foundation. We bring all of ourselves and issues and pasts into a relationship, so if you live circumspectly, there will be much less to come back and haunt you later. You can cut so many problems off at the pass by living God’s way. Rather than managing future consequences, which is like hacking away at the leaves, you need to aim for the root.

Today’s decisions are tomorrow’s sadness or celebration. Right now you are determining who your spouse wakes up to down the road. Fight for them even if you have no idea who they are. Yesterday you said tomorrow. Today is the day to put God first.  Be who he made you to be. You will attract the right one by protecting the right things. Life attracts life. If you are filling your life with tinder while you’re single, it will lead to a forest fire down the road.

Remember: Today’s decisions are tomorrow’s sadness or celebration.