7 Truths of Marriage: Rest in ConnectionНамуна

Truth In Chat

A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, and a word spoken in due season, how good it is!  - Proverbs 15:23

If a picture says a thousand words, just think how much more actual words say? Nothing beats or takes the place of communicating with your spouse. It’s hard to imagine two people growing a relationship that led to marriage without a countless array of conversations. There is very little that cannot be addressed with open, truthful communications. 

Most issues arise when talking diminishes or ceases altogether. The foundation of your relationship was crafted on sharing with each other, and that same foundation grows fragile as talking takes a backseat to conflict. If you want your relationship to grow, your depth of communication with each other must grow as well.  

Too often couples expect their spouse to either read their mind, interpret what was actually meant, or complete their sentences without their spouse having to complete their words. That’s nothing more than being lazy in your communications. If you want your marriage to be important, you must treat it as it's important. That starts with the way you speak with each other.

It’s easy to become complacent or lazy if you fall into the rut of simply sharing space. The truth is, talking takes effort. It doesn’t even create its own opportunities. You’ve both got to make the time to talk. That in and of itself is where spouses fall short of creating value with the words they share with their beloved.  

The absence of transparent communications can also lead to suspicion on the part of one or both spouses. Talking is what reassures people of what the other one is thinking, feeling, planning, and wondering. Failing to share intimate information creates a gap where truth and assurance once resided. 

Left open to imagination or misinterpretation, doubt, suspicion, and fear can be quick to move in. The truth is, while your spouse may be as pretty as a picture, they shouldn’t have to guess what those thousand words are. Create the time to regularly chat with your spouse and you will both benefit from the intimacy fostered through affirming words.

Truth Time:

When was the last time you and your spouse simply had a conversation? Make this a priority today. Stop whatever is going on and talk to each other.