Healing Through SacrificeНамуна

Whenever there is a loss, be it by death, divorce, broken promise, or adoption, there is pain. There is no easy way to state this fact. The loss brings pain; however, loss also gives a person the opportunity to grow through the life experience and feel a sense of deeper purpose for the trial with time.

These statements do not even begin to cover all parts of each independent experience. Adoption carries with it many emotions. The triad - adoptee, birth mother, and adoptive parents - are forever connected. And both families play an integral part in the health and wellbeing of the adoptee. For the birth parents through genetics and if there is open contact, in many other ways. For the birth mother (birth family), adoption carries a sense of loss that can’t be shared with most people.

"I sometimes have felt that adoptive parents that I’ve come across have a holier-than-thou feeling about the birth mother" – Diane (A Birthmother).

Society stigmatizes those who place, as 'giving away their babies/children.' With that thought process, a birth mother or birth family would feel a sense of abandonment of their precious child.

This idea that a birth mother has no conscience or does not think of their child after placement is preposterous. Where there is a physical connection, there is love. Scripture says, “Could a mother forget her child?” (Isaiah 49:15). The answer of course, is never.

Adoption is a heartfelt sacrifice.