Living a Servant MarriageНамуна

God is your Father-in-law

Marriage is the beauty of God making a trinity on earth as it is in heaven. God was making a three-faced servant-being on earth to multiply trinities, raise children, and glorify His name. 

This trinity idea is no minor thought on marriage. Marriage being a trinity between God, man, and woman is what separates a Christian definition of marriage from every version or perversion of marriage any culture or individual can decide upon. 

From a Christian perspective, marriage is not and never has been between a man and a woman. A Christian marriage, as shown in Genesis 1 and 2, is between God, a man, and a woman. 

In this trinity of marriage, we humans are equal in value. One does not rule over the other. A man is not a king in the triune marriage—God is. If a man thinks he can be king over an all-knowing, all-powerful God, he may be suffering from a delusion of grandeur. 

God is a real caring person in your marriage. Have you ever thought about how God feels as a member of your marriage? Do you think God feels wanted, pursued, loved, honored, considered, and engaged in your marriage? Or do you think God feels unwanted, disrespected, and silenced in your marriage? God does have feelings. How does he feel in your marriage? Answering this question as a couple can really open your eyes to the amazing first person in your marriage. 

I want to talk to you about the two relationships you both have with God in your marriage. I will start with the one with which it is likely you are most familiar: God as your Father. You have an all-knowing, all-powerful God as your dad. In my life, He and I have faced many things, and I love learning about Him in my day-to-day life. 

Then there comes a second relationship you have with God when you are in a triune marriage. This relationship is not with God as Father, but rather, with God as your Father-in-law. God is the one who created, birthed, and matured your spouse—the same God who brought he or she into your life to be your spouse. Your spouse is God’s favorite son or daughter, so this makes you a son-in-law to His favored daughter or a daughter-in-law to His favored son. 

You are not just a son or daughter of God. You are a son-in-law or daughter of God. You are a daughter-in-law or son of God as well. When you marry, you have two relationships with God; one as a son or daughter and one as a son-in-law or daughter-in-law. 

This is an important concept to recognize. How do you think God feels toward you as an in-law? Do you think He is proud of you? Is He encouraged and thankful that He gave your spouse to you to love?
 

Many people never think of the all-knowing, ever-present, all-powerful God as their Father-in-law. Never forget – He sees all the thoughts and behaviors you have toward your spouse, whether you are with them or absent from them.