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And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”… So Adam gave names to all the cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. Genesis 2:18, 20

Notice how the Bible uses the word ‘comparable.’ It literally means for a person to be like another. A synonym for the word ‘comparable’ is ‘similar.’ The original Hebrew word means “corresponding to him”, or “equal to him.” Eve being comparable to Adam didn’t just mean that she matched him according to gender but also fit him in assignment. 

Like a key that goes perfectly into a lock and clicks open, so God intended the romantic relationship to fit perfectly and click. That's the only qualification Adam was looking for in a spouse. 

Comparability was the test to determine who he would spend the rest of his life with intimately. This qualification still remains today for godly relationships. I would like to present most important factor to consider when addressing the issue of comparability. I call it "Christ Factor". 

Paul says to Corinthians, "you are at liberty to marry whomever you wish, only in the Lord. " God made it clear that both people must be comparable in the Christ factor, meaning if you are in Christ, you can marry whomever you like as long as that person is in Christ as well. 

Paul did not tell people to marry whom they wish as long as they believe in God. Muslims believe in God. Mormons believe in God. Demons believe in God and even tremble at his name, but they are still going to hell. Believing is not enough for marriage, they must follow Jesus. Is the person you want to date in the Lord? Have they repented? Have they been water baptized? Do they attend church and serve as well? Are they a part of a small group? Do they tithe? Do they have a thriving relationship with Jesus? These are all questions you need to ask yourself before jumping into a relationship with someone.

One of the main reasons God wants us to share the same faith in marriage is that it unites us spiritually - which is the deepest intimacy possible. Plus, both of you will have the same source to run to when problems arise. God is pro-marriage; He will always lead each person to become a better spouse.

Lastly, I would highly encourage you not to be a super spiritual person, but to be super devoted to Jesus. Be someone who is sold out for God but still relatable. Jesus was sold out and devoted to God, but He was the most relatable person on earth. He didn’t try to confuse people with super spiritual matters, rather He spoke in a language they could understand, using parables that matched their experiences. Be the kind of person you want to marry, because you will attract the kind of people who are like you.