Communication In MarriageНамуна

The key to any good marriage is communication. 

Marriage requires communicating about when we are happy, sad, disappointed, excited, as well as a myriad of other emotions. Two key areas that can be adversely affected by a lack of attention, or by past sins, are romantic communication and communication during conflict.

 Romantic Communication

Romantic communication is essential in cultivating a healthy and vital marriage relationship. During the dating stage, much energy is devoted to this kind of love (eros – romantic love.) However, if a couple marries on the foundation of an intimacy that may include several past partners or that may be rooted in physical contact alone, new external stresses and demands override the surface level and competing feelings of eros within each partner. Then when children are added, time demands that come from parenting may also limit what remaining resources were available for developing eros. 

When a marriage relationship lacks healthy romantic communication, it is important to revisit this area in a way that both supports and honors each partner.

Remember, romance involves capturing the attention of the other and not demanding it. Song of Solomon 4:9 states it this way in the New Living Translation, 

"You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes, with a single jewel of your necklace."

If you have found romance to be dwindling in your relationship, seek to communicate in ways other than words. Seek to communicate through non-verbal methods such that will capture your partner's focus and heart. Communication doesn't always have to mean a sit-down conversation. Oftentimes it involves a smile, wink, act of service, attractive outfit or any flirtatious manner you choose to interact with your spouse. Just because you are married doesn't mean the flirting has come to an end. Relight the flame and enjoy each other completely.