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A Man’s Need for Respect

In his book, “Marriage on the Rock” Jimmy Evans (marriagetoday.org), identifies the #1 need of a husband as honor and respect. 

Respect (definition) - to hold in esteem or honor; regard

Respect and honor to a man is a need, much greater than a want. Just as women need love even when they are not acting love-able, men need honor and respect even when they are not acting in a respectable way. 

When he feels respected, he rises to another level in value. Otherwise, he lives with feelings of defeat.

Realize that respect is earned; it is a two-way street. If we want others (adults and children) to respect us, we need to give respect first.

One evening at a marriage home group we asked the men what and respect mean to them, and to give examples of do’s and don’ts for their wife to show them honor and respect. The men in the group said, 

• Don’t expect me to be perfect, I’m not perfect. 
• Support me when I make mistakes, 
• Listen & understand me,
• Appreciate me, 
• Be affectionate, 
• Don’t withhold sex to punish me,
• Don’t question me every time I ask for something,
• Treat me as an adult. I want a wife, not another mother,
• Value my opinions,
• Show love and respect to my children, 
• I need more information before I can decide,
• I want to be your knight in shining armor, but I occasionally drop my sword or fall off my horse. 
• Please forgive me.

Suggestion:

Take the time to ask your husband what makes him feel honored and respected.

Ask your husband if he feels more respected at home or at work, and why.

Let your husband know, in your own words, how much his hard work means to you.

Our Prayer for you:

Almighty God, help this amazing couple to grow together and appreciate each other. We pray each wife will embrace her husband in the same way You embrace Your Bride – seeing her husband’s potential that You see. We ask You to grow the grace, patience and acceptance in their heart for each other’s imperfections. Thank You Lord for Your “gift” of marriage. Please show them how they can honor You in their marriage and family, in Jesus’ Name.

Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry