4 Prayers Every Wife Should PrayНамуна

Prayer #2: 

Appeal to God to lead your husband to be the loving head of your marriage and family.

As a follow up to prayer #1, this will happen as your husband draws closer to God. As he develops in his own spiritual maturity, your husband cannot help but become a more loving head of your marriage and family. But that doesn't mean you can skip prayer #2! Pray this each day as well. 

There are marriages where the husband may not feel worthy to lead or may not want to shoulder more responsibility than he already is facing at work or may be overwhelmed by the problems and sins he is already dealing with. He may arrive home wanting to hide and forget his troubles rather than to rise up with inner strength to help you and the children and grandchildren. This happens more than we might imagine so that's why prayer is crucial to producing change on this front.

We are not excusing any husband’s selfishness or abdication of his God-given responsibilities and dumping them on wives by acknowledging the reality many wives face. Instead, we are encouraging you as the wife to reconsider how you seek to achieve what you long for in your husband by what you choose to pray for. 

Husbands seem to stiffen whenever their wives confront them on spiritual matters, especially on being the “spiritual head of the home.” If your husband grew up without his father and was raised only by his mother, he may find being the “head” way out of his comfort zone. If your husband grew up with an aloof or abusive and disconnected father, then he likely will have inbred traits and expectations that will need tender care to reshape, often with two steps forward and one-and-a-half steps backward. 

Beg God to grant your husband courage. Ask God to instill experiences that breed confidence instead of defeat. Accept your husband exactly where he is, and then start helping him through encouraging words, a hope-filled heart and great expectations couched in love.