From Seed to Strength: A 5 Day Devotional for Raising Sons With Purpose by Dr. Richelle Whittakerనమూనా

Day 4: Water

"My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry."
— James 1:19

Boys need a safe space to express their feelings openly. When my older son started middle school, I began taking him to school twice a week, and during those car rides, we’d have what I call “car conversations.” We would start with a five-minute devotional that connected relatable topics to scripture, which often led to deeper conversations about his feelings and experiences at school.

One morning, he shared that there were certain things he’d talk to me about as his mom, and other things he’d prefer to talk to his dad about. I told him he could talk to me about anything, but he was firm that some topics were just for his dad. Secretly, it stung a bit, but I didn’t allow my feelings to prevent him from openly sharing his. You see, had I shared my feelings, he would have changed what he said to protect my feelings and not stand in his truth. I want him to be free to express himself with me.

These car conversations have opened doors to some difficult and unexpected topics, yet they've also let me into his world without judgment. At one point, I didn’t think he valued the devotional and conversations until I missed a few days of taking him to school, and he expressed disappointment. It reminded me how much these moments meant to him.

We want to pour into our sons and create an environment where they feel free to express themselves and release their burdens—the same openness and care that Jesus offers to us. If you feel you haven’t created this type of atmosphere for you and your son, it’s not too late.

Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you, to help you be quick to listen and slow to speak.

Prayer:

Lord, I know that I can sometimes be impatient and in a hurry. Please help me to slow down and create a safe, open environment where my son feels free to share his true self without fear of judgment. Give me the wisdom and patience to listen with compassion so he feels truly heard and understood.