When a Couple Loses a Baby: a Man's Perspectiveనమూనా
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Struggle # 1: I felt unseen.
As a man, it can be easy to feel unseen when you and your partner lose a baby.
Why?
For me, if someone brought up the topic, they usually asked, “How’s Ash?” Very few individuals asked about me. But my pain was real. It was deep.
We were bringing a child into this world together. But it felt like the baby was more Ashley’s than mine. Why did it feel this way?
Well…
I cannot get pregnant.
I cannot carry a baby in my body.
I cannot give birth.
I cannot feed a baby.
These are wonderful responsibilities that God gifted to women; as I share, I’m not trying to reduce the significance of the pain felt by a mother who has lost a baby.
But our babies were mine as well. They had my DNA. God placed a love for these children inside of me that grew from the moment I found out we were expecting.
Though my pain didn’t always seem to be acknowledged, my pain was deep. As I reflect, I realize that I could have received more support if I had chosen to share my experience with others.
There are so many unseen elements of child loss. Before birth, babies are unseen except by ultrasound and if the mom begins "showing" as the baby grows.
Often, when the life is lost, many couples have not made a public announcement, so the people in their lives may not know to offer them support.
Unseen grief can be a precursor to other emotions as well: anger, loneliness, disappointment.
Invite God to illuminate the darkness so you can heal, so you can be seen. May God comfort and rescue you today.
God,
I know You see me. You understand my pain. Help me present my thoughts and feelings to You. Show me that You are safe, even during the rough times.
Amen.
వాక్యము
About this Plan
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When couples lose a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early death, grief is expected. Though there are many resources available for women, few resources speak directly to men. This plan will unpack the ways men may feel differently from women during their loss and will help men find their path toward God and healing. Additionally, permission will be granted to feel deep feelings and to work toward healthy communication. Women can also benefit from learning the struggles men face!
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