God at the Centre of Your MarriageUzorak

THE OUTCOME OF CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE

Even though conflicts are inevitable in marriage, they can be taken care of. No matter the conflict experienced by couples, either minor or major, demonic or natural, it can produce two kinds of outcome - understanding and misunderstanding. If a conflict gives you the outcome of understanding, it leads to respect, submission, cleaving and unity; that is a road that conflict can lead to. The other outcome of misunderstanding leads to despise, hatred, opposition, separation and disunity (notice that I didn’t mention divorce).

Every couple has gone on this journey before. Some couples are still married but disunited; they have separation of ideas and opinions and despise each other, but they stay together. Do you know some couples who have divorced but have respect for each other? Have you heard of couples that became better friends after they divorced? They attend weddings of their children and honour each other better than when they were married.

So, conflicts will lead you on either of these roads, you must make up your mind which road it will lead you, but surely, conflicts will come. It is like driving home, and you get to a roadblock, but you must take a turn. When you get to the junction in marriage called conflict, where will you turn? One will take you home; the other road will take you somewhere else.

So, when conflicts come, know the correct path to take. Some couples are at the bus stop of ‘disunity’, just waiting for the best excuse to divorce. Conflict is a gift or a curse depending on how you view it and your decision afterwards.

PRAYER: Lord, help me to understand what every conflict that arises in marriage should do for me. I take authority over every spirit behind misunderstandings in my marriage.