Loved Baby: A 7-Day Plan After Pregnancy Loss Chikamu

Have you met Hannah? From the Bible? She’s front and center in 1 Samuel. Hannah’s story is like so many of ours—she is our biblical soul mate. Although our stories are distinctly different, those of us who have had miscarriages, late-term loss, or battled infertility can understand the longing of Hannah. Our hearts have ached, our lives have changed, and we find others (even some husbands) don’t quite understand the torment. 

The verses showed me God recognizes this unmet longing for a child in our arms as a reason worthy of tears and anguish. Hannah’s despair is featured in the Bible. To me, this authenticates our sadness and gives us the ultimate permission to cry out to God and express our fullest emotions. 

Hannah moaned, howled, ugly cried to God. Have you done this yet? Squalled those tears and screamed those horrid cries? Did you know it is okay to direct these emotions at God? Crying in sorrow is a way of communicating and talking to him when our souls are seared with pain. 

Sweet mama, I don’t how your story or mine will progress, but I do know our heavenly Father hears our cries. The grief you feel right now is a universal experience. Grief over the desire for motherhood transcends time and is so important that it is featured in the Bible. We shouldn’t be ashamed of our emotions of anger, jealousy, and sadness. Instead we should cry out to the Lord and express our inner turmoil.