Love That Lasts 5- Day Devotional Chikamu

One Wednesday morning I had my mom friends over for a Bible study, and the one leading that day, who was a bit older than us and had kids in high school, shared how she loves “submitting” to her husband. I laughed and made a remark under my breath, “Man, if only I could say the same thing.” And it hit me–how I wanted to take the reins, push Jeff aside, and assert myself as though I knew what was best.

The Holy Spirit spoke to my heart that morning and showed me how I was in the wrong. I realized that I can rejoice in submitting to Jeff, too, because God had blessed me with an incredible husband who loves Jesus and wants to lead our home. He wanted to have a vision for our family, to be present, to lead them with grace and truth.

God didn’t want Jeff to forcefully lead our family, to treat me like my opinion doesn’t exist; nor did He intend for me to argue with Jeff, or demean him every time I disagreed with him on a topic. He wants us to listen to each other, to work things out together, for me to trust Jeff because I can trust God working in him, and for Jeff to be sensitive to my intuitions and gracefully lead our home.

Jeff and I are a team. He doesn’t just make plans and not include me or expect me to automatically follow his every idea and thought. Rather, we run everything by each other, and if we’re on the same page, then it’s a go. God put us together, including our strengths, so we work together. But I realized that I could trust God working in Jeff to make the best decisions for our family, and enjoy working together instead of trying to push him aside. When we work in this rhythm, it is the best. It’s how God intended it.