Friendship vs. Dating: What Does the Bible Say About Relationship Beginnings?Chikamu

Day 3: Character and Attitude

When you’re thinking about starting a relationship, you’ll want to consider the importance of character and attitude. The Bible gives us plenty of insight into why these traits matter so much. In 1 Samuel 16:7, we learn that "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." This verse reminds us that what’s inside matters far more than outward appearances.

Starting as friends first is a wonderful way to truly understand someone’s character. Friendship allows you to see how a person behaves in various situations—are they patient, kind, understanding? These are the qualities that reflect their spiritual life and their walk with God. You get a front-row seat to how they treat others, make decisions, and handle life’s ups and downs. This kind of insight is really helpful when considering a future romantic relationship.

As friends, you also get to see how someone lives out their faith. Do they practice what they preach? Are they consistent in their beliefs, even when life gets challenging? These observations are crucial because they reveal if their faith is an integral part of their life or just a facade. In Proverbs 22:1, it says, "A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold." A person’s reputation—built on their character and attitude—is priceless and something you’ll want to anchor a relationship on.

By starting with friendship, you allow time for true colors to show. It’s easy to put on a mask when you’re dating, trying to impress, but friendships often strip away these facades. You get to know the real person in moments that reveal their true character.

So, as you navigate the beginning of a new relationship, let friendship be your guide. Use this time to evaluate character and attitude, looking for those who reflect values you admire and want in your life. A strong friendship provides a solid foundation, making sure your relationship is built on more than just attraction. By prioritizing these traits, you’re setting yourself up for a deeper, more meaningful connection that honors both God and each other.