Biblical Secrets to a Healthy MarriageChikamu

Avoidance, emotionally and physically, often begins subtly and is a quiet response to discomfort or disappointment. Yet, when left unaddressed, it can become a barrier that creates an emotional and physical distance, weakening any marriage's intimate life.

Sexual, emotional, and physical withdrawal can happen for many reasons—hurt feelings, unmet expectations, or unresolved conflict. However, while withdrawing may feel like the best initial step to take, it is one of the most damaging behaviors to the marriage as it deprives both partners of the connection that marriage is meant to foster.

To counteract this, I would encourage you to address issues as they come respectfully and often gently.Practice staying present by setting aside distractions during conversations or commit to sharing one meaningful thought or feeling daily. Simple acts like these show that your heart is open and willing to reconnect.

A healthy marriage is important to God because it mirrors His commitment to us—a steadfast, unbreakable covenant that reflects His love, unity, and faithfulness to the world. When we allow our hearts to be so contaminated by hurt and resentment that we rely on avoidance and withdrawal, we are not allowing God to heal the institution that is made to reflect his love.

May you take these steps towards protecting your marriage and find the Lord's strength to rekindle the love and burn for him together.

Encouragement: Schedule uninterrupted time together each week, whether over coffee, a walk, or a shared activity, to reconnect and discuss what's on your hearts.

Let’s pray: Lord, help us face our challenges together rather than avoid or withdraw. May we grow closer and embrace intimacy in every part of our relationship.

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