Collective: Finding Life TogetherChikamu

How do I find friends?

We’ve established that finding friends is pretty important for finding our direction in life. But making friends as an adult can feel awkward and weird. So, how do you find your people?

First of all, know that God is faithful to provide. 1 John 5:14 says we can be confident that God hears us when we ask Him for anything that pleases Him. Having people to do life with is a part of God’s plan for us. So, we can feel confident that when we pray for God to bring us people, He will.

Jesus says that just like a good parent doesn’t give their kid bad gifts, when we ask Him for something, He’s not going to trick us. So pray for the right people to come into your life at just the right time. And as you pray, listen to what the Holy Spirit might prompt you to do. Maybe someone will walk by at work one day who you can ask to lunch. Maybe it’s getting to know someone you serve with at church. 

But here’s the thing. Finding friends requires taking a step outside your comfort zone and knowing that rejection is inevitable sometimes. To truly find a place where you belong in life, you have to take a risk. You have to show up without knowing how it will go or who might accept you. Because facing the fear of rejection is the key to connection.

So, when you feel like there’s a person you’re supposed to reach out to, do it! You never know if you might be the answer to their prayer for community, too. 

Consider: Who are some people God has placed in your life? How might you take a step outside your comfort zone to form a friendship with them? 

Pray: God, thank You for being a good Father who cares about every part of our lives. Today, I ask You to bring people into my life. Help me have the courage to overcome the fear of rejection and find real connection. Give me the courage to invite someone into my life this week. In Jesus’ name. Amen.