8 Must-Have Conversations Before Getting EngagedSample

Day 5: Career and Lifestyle

"Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” - Proverbs 16:3

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.” - 1 Corinthians 6:19

The seventh must-have conversation is about career ambitions and lifestyle expectations.

Your careers can significantly impact your lifestyle as a couple, so it's important to discuss your professional goals, potential relocations, work-life balance, and how you'll support each other's ambitions. This helps make sure you both feel fulfilled and supported in your career paths and personal growth.

Start by sharing your career dreams and goals. Are you aiming for a promotion, thinking about starting a business, or considering further education? Do you want to be a stay-at-home mom and homemaker? Understanding each other’s aspirations helps you plan for the future. Discuss how your careers might require relocations or extended hours and how you'll navigate those changes together.

Work-life balance is also key. Talk about how you’ll manage your time so that both work and personal life get the attention they need. The Bible reminds us to commit our work to the Lord, trusting that He will guide our plans. By aligning your career goals with your faith, you can find harmony between professional ambitions and your relationship.

The eighth must-have conversation is about health and wellness.

Discussing your views on health, fitness, and wellness is important for a long-term relationship. Talk about your health habits, how you'll support each other in maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and how you'll handle health challenges that may arise. This creates a supportive environment for both physical and mental well-being.

Begin by sharing your daily health routines and fitness goals. Do you love morning runs, prefer yoga, or follow a specific diet? Knowing these details helps you support each other’s efforts to stay healthy. Discuss how you’ll motivate one another to stick to these habits, whether it's through joint workouts or encouraging words.

Also, consider how you’ll handle health issues. From minor illnesses to major medical conditions, having a plan in place ensures you're prepared to face challenges together. The Bible teaches us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, so we know it’s important to care for our physical and mental health. By prioritizing wellness in your relationship, you create a foundation for a strong and vibrant life together.

Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It is a covenant decision designed to last a lifetime. By treating it with the seriousness and respect it deserves, you honor the commitment you're making to each other. Having these conversations before getting engaged can set a strong foundation for a fulfilling, biblical marriage.

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