God's Daily Wisdom for MenSample

Smart Silence

Aaron lost two of his four sons because of their unwise decisions to disobey God. The emotions in Aaron‘s heart must have been racing. Just before the death of his sons, Aaron experienced the ultimate ecstasy by luxuriating in the glory of the Lord with his best friend, family, and friends. He went from the mountaintop of celebration to the valley of death. He knew to speak in this state of emotion was risky, unwise, and fleshly.

As anger and humiliation boil, our words become ripe to lash out at God and others. It is wise to refrain in the face of raw emotion. There are times not to speak our minds, not spew our unguarded words, and embarrass ourselves. Instead, by God’s grace, we can remain quiet, cool, and contemplative. Smart silence sends a message of maturity. Patience waits to speak guarded words, full of grace and truth — those golden to God. (Proverbs 25:12)

It is hard to remain silent when we feel hurt or disappointed. It is hard to harness our tongues when we see our children hurting, and we feel incapacitated to help. It is hard to keep quiet and pray when we feel the Lord has let us down. Like an intravenous procedure in a fevered patient, smart silence requires extra doses of God’s grace flooding our lives. His grace refrains us from speaking until a better time and day.

There are times to speak up in the heat of the emotion, but those situations are the exception. In most cases, take a deep breath, send up a prayer to your heavenly Father, and wait before you speak. Wait until you are calm, and wait for others to cool down. At the appropriate time, make sure your words are birthed from a pure and prayerful heart. Silence is smart because it allows the Lord to soothe your soul. (Psalm 131:2)

Reflect: In what relationship do I need to trust God and be silent?