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On to Success

Sometimes we define success as “reaching a particular goal, achieving a desired end, and relishing victory over defeat.” Yet, more than a single destination, success is often in the process.

Evaluate Your Support System

You still need significant support as you move ahead with your recovery plan. From time to time, it would be helpful for you to intentionally evaluate your support system and how it is functioning based on your evolving needs. Periodic adjustments may be necessary and even beneficial from season to season of life. Remaining aware and avoiding stagnant relationships within your support system are key.

Your Inspiration: Believing in God’s Amazing Plan

There is no limit to the heights a husband and wife can reach in love for one another if recovery is pursued as a couple. If you begin experiencing God’s true design for authentic marital intimacy, you won’t want to return to the lackluster version of marriage you lived with before. Many couples are overwhelmed as they begin to experience the enormity of God’s love. For the first time, they’re choosing to open their hearts fully. In turn, they’re surprised when they experience a newness of love for each other. As you and your husband heal and grow individually and together, you’ll be able to create a new vision for your marriage.

The Meaning of Success

Successes may now be forming – at least for you personally, and also hopefully for your marriage. You may even be on your way to a finish line when you and/or your husband can celebrate the realization of God’s work and redemption through this trial. Like a runner crossing the finish line in a race, you can be glad the hard work is behind you and feel the joy of a race well run. Success means that you can face future life hurdles on the new foundation you’re building.

Worth the Investment

This process is never easy for either spouse. And there will be times when it’s downright painful. But it will also be the most worthwhile project you have ever undertaken. No matter the outcome of the marriage, remember, God is with you, and He is for you. He can see the end even when you can’t. He is good all the time; trust in Him to make a way for you today and in the future.

Previous devotional in Aftershock series: Your Sexual Relationship with Your Husband.

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