Seven Days to “The Intimacy You Crave” Bible PlanSample

 Sneaky Blockers

Years ago, my husband decided to let his hair grow long and landed on a mullet! I personally have nothing against men with long hair, but in terms of starting my engine, a mullet doesn’t push the accelerator. 

He loved his new-do. It was like he was in a special club. Other guys with long hair—total strangers—would single him out as if they had a secret society. Suddenly he was in this special club, and he reveled in it. I recall one guy praising him and saying, “Hey! Fellow long-hair!”

Someone, please help me. 

This long hair phase persisted for about seven months, while I held in my massive displeasure. He seemed to love it so much that I just couldn’t bring myself to tell him I hated it. 

Conflicted, I didn’t want him to withdraw his membership from the cool club, but on the other hand, I didn’t want to have sex with him either. 

I didn’t see any solution in which “everyone” would be happy. 

How could I claim I was sincerely seeking God while I wasn’t being faithful to my wedding vows? Avoiding my husband wasn’t exactly loving. And yet, another side of me chanted, “So what?! Just keep avoiding him. Who’s got time for that anyway?” 

This internal struggle raged in my heart as my relationship with my husband and God suffered. 

After a long struggle and a lot of prayer, I decided I had to broach the subject of “intimacy” with my husband and his beloved mullet. Barely making eye contact and tripping over my words, I explained my dilemma to him.

He took it surprisingly well. 

The next day, he got a haircut! Bye-bye, mullet, bye-bye. Never to return. 

Thank You, God!

Have you ever experienced roadblocks to intimacy? There are all kinds of intimacy blockers from a mullet to kids and exhaustion. We need to tackle them head on. It is at these times we need to be still before God and listen. If we seek God, He will direct us. 

The closer you are to God, the better your love life will be. 

God made us with deep longings and cravings for relationship. When we feel loved, cherished, and filled, we will have more love to give. And the more love we give, the more we will feel loved. 

The way we can get the intimacy we crave is by loving others. Loving others the way God instructs—sacrificially and fully. 

Lord, help me to seek You in all things, and give me a heart that exemplifies love and surrender to You.

So what? Is there a tough conversation you need to have with your husband? Don’t allow anything to block your intimacy.