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Mirror Mirror
In 1987 Moe experienced divorce. As he shared his situation with others, he repeatedly said “My wife left me!” One day in prayer he had this thought, “Yes, your wife left you, but you made her want to leave.” He didn’t realize the hurt he had caused in the relationship.
Snow White
In the fable of Snow White, the wicked queen asked the mirror, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?” When the mirror answered, “Snow White,” the queen tried to remove Snow White rather than determine why she (the queen) was not the fairest. She could not see her own faults.
The wicked queen portrays human tendencies. Failing to look at our self can cause failed relationships. Self-inventory is tough, but is necessary so we stop undermining relationships.
Suggestion: Self-Examination
Ask yourself these questions. Be honest with yourself and God.
1. Was God at the center of your marriage?
2. Are you difficult to please?
3. Do you criticize others?
4. Do you gossip about your former spouse, or others?
5. Did you try to change others?
6. Are you easily angered?
7. Have you used anger or stubbornness (manipulation) to get your way?
8. Was your former spouse your best friend?
9. Were you more devoted to children, career, or hobby than to your former spouse?
10. Were you unfaithful to your former spouse (adultery, pornography, flirtatious, etc.)?
11. Were you physically or verbally abusive?
12. Do you blame others?
13. Can you forgive someone who hurt you?
14. Of the fruit of the Spirit, which do you lack the most? (Galatians 5:22-23)
If you have identified some shortcomings, do not feel defeated or guilty. Repent means “such sorrow for past life as produces a new life”. You can change. Accept responsibility for any damage done to your relationships.
God forgives you, so forgive yourself.
Forgive those who hurt you.
Declare that your remarriage will last a lifetime. Never give up.
Look Forward. God has a plan for your new family.
Having a failure does not make you a failure. God is not mad. God’s plan makes you a victor, not a victim. Go forth in God!
Our Prayer for You
Lord help me understand myself and change my heart to grow my relationships. Holy Spirit thank You for directing my steps in life. In Jesus’ Name!
Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry
About this Plan
Blending a Family 40-day Devotional written by Moe and Paige Becnel at Blending a Family Ministry is a resource for remarried families. The Becnel’s married in 1989 with 5 children, and were quickly overwhelmed with many issues exclusive to blended families. The plan discusses the cause of the issues many families face, and provides solutions found in God’s Word that fuel family growth. God is for you!
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