The Mingling Of Souls - Matt Chandler On IntimacySample

“Still Pursuing”

One of the things we see in our aged couple, despite all their history together and familiarity with each other, is that they still pursued one another. Looking over these few verses, we see things like the following: I find you, I kiss you, I lead you, I bring you.

Whenever you see an elderly couple out at the park or in a restaurant together, and they’re tender with each other, holding hands or talking sweetly, aren’t you moved by that? Maybe he opens the door for her or helps her out of the car. Maybe she wipes food off his chin or helps him order because he can’t see or hear very well. They are affectionate with each other in a sweet way, so that you see how in sync they are, how the rhythms of their life have led to this great romantic togetherness in their old age. That’s very moving.

The human soul is a deep thing, and in different seasons the heart will manifest in different ways.

Regardless of our life stage, regardless of where we are in our marriage, there’s still a pursuit. Don’t let your mind in this moment drift to autopilot. Don’t think, “Well, I’ll worry about that when I’m in my eighties.”

No, this is how you get to your eighties. This is how you invest in that beautiful future. Keep pursuing. Don’t stop.Continue to pursue your spouse’s heart.

Continue to press the gospel into his or her spirit. Continue to want more.

When you get there, you may be ready for retirement from so many things, but you should never retire from romancing your spouse. Don’t work toward the day to quit. Work toward the day you die.

This is how true longevity occurs. We will never arrive at a place where we can say, “I know you now,” because it simply wouldn’t be true. Each day we are called to know and pursue our spouse more deeply.

* Are you committed to keeping that fire burning? Have you ever succumbed to the temptation to just cruise for a while? How did that turn out? How can you ensure you don’t fall for that temptation again?

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