Love Junkies: Break The Toxic Relationship CycleSample

There’s a difference between a good choice and a God choice in relationships. Not just in the choosing of your life partner, but in navigating the challenges of marriage. Just because you say I do doesn’t mean that the fairy tale begins. There’s no such thing as a problem-free philosophy. Happily-ever-after is a fantasy, but when we allow God to direct our lives, fulfillment and joy are the rewards and realities.  

As we seek God’s direction for our lives and practice surrendering our will to Him, He’ll show us the way to go. In Genesis Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for his son, Isaac. The servant prayed and asked God for a sign. “When I ask for a drink at the spring, let your chosen one be the one who offers water for my camels as well.” This wasn’t a haphazard re­quest. The servant was searching for a woman of character, a woman with a heart to serve. When the servant met Rebekah at the well and she offered to water his camels, he knew she was the Lord’s chosen. The match was obvious to Rebekah’s family as well. 

I know our culture doesn’t practice arranged marriages where the father picks out a spouse. But what if you allowed your heavenly Father to choose your mate? He has His absolute best in mind for you. 

Choosing a mate and submitting to God’s lead in marriage are difficult, but there are things you can do to strengthen your ability to trust His guidance. Ask God to show you something you can surrender that is just beyond the measure of faith you currently have. It's difficult to let go of some­thing significant if you’ve never yielded something small. 

You can also pray for vision. Ask God to give you a vision for your future so that you can align the purpose for your life with His plans. When God wants us to believe, He sends many convincing proofs, so pray that He will confirm it in such a way that your hope and confidence is anchored and unwavering. 

When you pay close attention to the promptings of the Holy Spirit, you’ll be able to discern His direction. And like a dance, the closer you are to your partner, the easier it’ll be to feel His lead and surrender your will to His. 

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