Biblically-Based Communication Tips for CouplesSample

Day 4: Speak the Truth in Love

The fourth communication tip is to speak the truth in love. It comes from Ephesians 4:15, which says, "Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ."

Imagine you're having a conversation with your partner, and there's something important you need to say. Honesty is foundational in any relationship, but how we express the truth matters. If you speak the truth with kindness and love, it can bring you closer and build trust. But if you say it harshly, it can hurt your partner’s feelings and create distance.

Think about a time when someone told you the truth in a loving way. It probably made you feel respected and understood. You can do the same for your partner. For example, if your partner did something that upset you, instead of yelling or being mean, try saying, "I feel hurt when this happens. Can we talk about it?" This shows that you care about their feelings and want to solve the problem together.

Being honest with love means thinking about how your words will affect your partner. It's about sharing the truth in a way that helps them understand and grow, not in a way that tears them down. It’s like giving them a gift wrapped with care, making sure it’s received well.

Sometimes, being honest can be tough, especially if it involves difficult topics. But remember, honesty combined with love helps build a stronger relationship. It shows that you trust and respect each other enough to be truthful, even when it’s hard.

Here’s a challenge for you: The next time you need to be honest with your partner, pause and think about how to say it with love. Use kind words and a gentle tone. Practice this every day, and you'll see how it deepens your connection and strengthens your relationship.

God wants us to speak the truth in love. Learning to be honest without being rude is a vital skill that can be transformational in all your relationships, including with your significant other.